Life is 'bout choices and the Decisions we make

Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.

Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?

There are no guarantees.

You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to different situations.

Wrong decisions are always at hindsight.

Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.

Take the risk: Decide.

Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveller or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid. Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option in the face of life's crossroads:

Get as many information as you can about your situation.

You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W's: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation.

Identify and create options.

What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end.

Weigh the pros and cons of every option.

Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option.

Trust yourself and make that decision.

Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose... decide... believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.

Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.

17 for 17

“Hana… ulang tahun mau kado apa?”

Ya begitulah kira kira kalimat yang terlontar dari bokap malam itu.

Haha, lucu kalo diinget pembicaraan 17 juni malam lalu, seharusnya gue bisa ngejawab pertanyaan dari bokap gue atau se enggaknya ada barang yang terlintas di pikian gue, tapi malem itu yang terjadi gue malah blank dan dengan yakin gue jawab “engga yah, hana gak mau kado apa-apa”

Yaa ternyata emang bener, akan datang saat nya lo udah ngerasa cukup sama apa yang lo miliki dan satu satunya yang lo mau cuma pertahanin apa yang udah lo dapet. Alhamdulillah… gue belom pernah ngerasa seyakin itu bahwa hidup gue udah mendekati cukup dan maruk rasanya jika gue masih minta lebih dari Tuhan selain minta buat tetep milikin apa yang udah gue punya sekarang

Sampai akhirnya gue merenung, apa yang udah terjadi selama setahun ini dan nyoba mereka reka apa yang jadi resolusi gue tahun kemaren dan mendapati kalo gue gak nulis apa apa di blog ini tahun lalu.

Hidup gue setahun lalu mungkin lagi ada di titik terendah jadi buat berharap dan nyeritain resolusi aja kayanya udah gak sanggup, Ah masa lalu.........

Sebenernya gue emang punya sih resolusi tapi….. resolusi itu gak bakal bisa diwujudin sama bokap.. dan cuma gue dan Tuhan yang bisa wujudin resolusi itu. Gue yang berusaha dan Tuhan yang berkehendak. Yap, Bahagiain orang tua dengan cara menjadi orang sukses. Dan gue pun gak akan bilang itu ke bokap gue Cuma bakal bilang itu ke Tuhan, ngucapin diantara selipan selipan doa pas solat

Dan mungkin ada beberapa resolusi resolusi kecil yang bakal tetep ada kaya bisa dapet nilai ulangan yang bagus, bisa jago matematika, bisa roll depan, dan bisa manjangin rambut hahaha.. Resolusi kecil yang bikin semua yang udah gue milikin jadi lebih berarti dan bikin mereka mau bertahan. Peningkatan kualitas diri, Kestabilan emosi, pendewasaan pikiran, ketepatan bertindak.. Ah Amin aja deh buat semuanyaa…

Yng pasti gue cuma mau bilang makasih buat semua pembelajaran berharganya, untuk semua masalah yang datang dan pergi ataupun memutuskan buat bertahan di hidup gue, gue percaya dalam hidup ada yag datang dan pergi sampai semuanya akan dipertemukan di satu titik. Terutama buat yang udah ngisi waktu gue yang bikin gue tumbuh lebih dewasa dam mampu ngeliat hal dari 2 sisi yang berbeda, semuanya mendewasakan dan ternyata semua baik buat gue

Bismillah 17 :)

Pernah

Aku mengarahkan rasa yang kupunya pada ujung jari jemari
membuatnya menari bersama hujan yang menyapa bumi

Kamu membenci hujan, becek, lembab, basah dan membuatmu merana.
namun kita sama sama mencintai pelangi setelah hujan reda.

Hujan tak selalu menghantarkan rindu
terkadang, dia mengirimkan tetesan yang memukul dinding masa lalu

Aku pernah bertanya: "bisakah hujan melarutkan rasa gundah?"
sayang, hujan terlalu malas untuk berbalas sapa

Aku pernah mencintai hujan yang membantuku menyamarkan air mata.
Aku membenci kepalsuan tapi harus tersenyum walau duka meraja.

Bagiku, romantis bukan ketika menatap hujan yang merintik dalam gerak lambat. Tapi merekam setiap senyum yang pernah kamu buat.

Aku pernah merasakan hangatmu memeluk sela jemari.
Memandang keluar jendela, menghitung sisa tetes hujan tadi.

Kamu, jarang merangkai aksara indah.
Tapi kamu selalu berhasil mengusir airmata dan menghadirkan tawa.

Namun, semua yang kini aku genggam hanyalah satu kata: pernah. Bisa kah kamu kembali menjadi kamu? Akankah kamu dan aku melebur menjadi kita?

.. karena aku tak pernah suka pada kata pernah.
tak pernah :"